Why people have extramarital affairs?
Chat about a loaded matter that no one wants to chat about, that’s it. Amusing thing, married dating have been going on since millennium. Extramarital affairs can be loaded with evils, cause sorrow, and other troubles. Also you must wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and openness thing, finances, age dissimilarity, faith education, guilt, and on and on. I anticipate there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the purpose of this article I shall define an affair as a long term, maybe months long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, dating wives.
Why do women have extramarital affairs? There are as many reasons as there are seeking extramarital affairs. I suppose generally though it is just the human nature, the need for care, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and loved. Here are a few reasons I have run across.
Physically we as human beings are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is enjoyable and fun, and sex makes us flee the world for a brief period of time. This excitement exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels high enough. Somebody are able to turn the desire on and off, some are good at controlling it and others are so-so at best. But we all have it, young and elder, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the excitement of the hunt. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the caring for another person, for some it is the wish to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the total romance thing. These wishes and yearnings can be so strong they overcome the taboos the world has erected against extramarital affairs. For lots of individuals the yearnings will beat their worries and make them risk the anger of not only their family, but the public as well. So why, what is the catalyst?
Sex Addicts, probably some of us are. Sex is terribly good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically motivated sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not harm your family or anybody else? You would need to minimize the threat you are taking. If you have the approach that a good affair is one that is advantageous to everyone, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I suppose this is the largest grouping, gigantic really. There are many couples whose marriage is over, apart from they feel comfy in the way they exist, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Then there are the children to look after. Your money are so entangled. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to be together besides love and sex.
Bodily reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that prevent them implementing the sex performance, at least not with their othere half. An marital affair at times solves the trouble while keeping the marriage whole.
Avoidance, sorrowfully this is a common cause I fear. One or the other, generally the husband is sexually neglecting his female for a large humber of reasons. As a male I actually appreciate you guys neglecting your wives and making them available to us men of romance, making them “hot milfs” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just misplaced in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Perhaps its romance that is missing, could be it is a lack of love, could be caring is disappeared, could be it is the intimacy, could be neglect. Could be we have simply grown apart, our relulas interests diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my life, is contradictory of what you want. Could be I just do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that emotion that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The ultimate reason people give is, they search for the excitement that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to run away, for economic gain, for retribution and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.